Couples work is my specialization. It is an honor when couples invite me into the most difficult and painful moments as they are making changes in their relationship. My aim is for both partners to feel heard, understood, and to enhance the bond between the couple. Humans are hard-wired for connection and it causes distress when we feel disconnected from the person with whom we have chosen to spend our lives.
I approach couples therapy through an attachment lens. I am trained in Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), which is one of the most well-researched and empirically validated forms of therapy for couples. This type of therapy not only identifies the negative cycle that we find ourselves in, but also addresses the underlying emotional issues that keep us stuck in that cycle. Creating awareness of both the behaviors and emotions that go into our interactions and learning new ways of interacting help create lasting change.
In couples’ therapy, the couple is my client. I meet with you together for the first session and the 2nd and 3rd sessions are individual sessions to get more background information on each of you. The 4th session and beyond are with the couple together. There may be other times when individual sessions will be warranted.
The goal of couples' therapy is to create a secure bond and partnership; learning to become more accessible, responsive, and engaged in the relationship has been shown to increase overall marital satisfaction.